I want to talk today about words specifically what they mean. Today I would like to talk about self-control and passive aggressive behavior.
Self-control, what does it mean. Self-Control means “the ability to control oneself, in particular one’s emotions and desires or the expression of them in one’s behavior, especially in difficult situations” In our society today it seems we have lost all self-control. Self-control can also be applied to real life situations like “if we set a piece of candy in front of a child and tell them if they wait 15 minutes they can have 2 pieces”. How many 5 year olds do you think will wait and why? Another example of self-control is saving your money and not spending it on things you don’t need. That is another important example of self-control yet what if you have no money? We will talk about having No Money in the very near future it is definitely something we could do without but is a necessary evil at this point in time. Self-control is one of the most important lessons to learn. But who is teaching self-control, the Buddhist monks in ancient India or china? Self-Control is IMHO the most important lesson anyone can learn and should be taught by all parents and schools alike. The problem is most of them don’t even know it or seem powerless to change it.
Passive Aggressive behavior can be defined as, “of or denoting a type of behavior or personality characterized by indirect resistance to the demands of others and an avoidance of direct confrontation, as in procrastinating, pouting, or misplacing important materials.” That sounds pretty generic. Do you think passive aggressive behavior is good or bad? Passive Aggressive behavior can be both However “P.A.” behavior is usually bad for the person the behavior or comments are directed at. “P.A.” is used as way to demean the person the behavior is directed at and further to try to illicit a change in that person’s behavior. There are much better ways to change someone’s behavior like being totally honest that would be nice. “P.A.” or Passive Aggressive behavior is sometimes hard to detect but we have all experienced it. Here are a couple examples to make it more clear to you someone says “your work is great but if you had done this or that it could have been much better”. Another example of Passive Aggressive behavior is, “if you voted for Donald Trump you must be a terrorist”. These are all examples of Passive Aggressive behavior designed to make you feel bad or think something is wrong and to change but they are negative and generally don’t work
Okay Todays words have been “Self Control” and “Passive Aggressive” Behavior Lets all think about what we have read and start to apply our knowledge in our own lives starting right now. In the case of passive aggressive behavior just learn to recognize what it is and who is saying or behaving in this way so you can avoid that person or learn how to change their behavior in a more positive way. As far as self control the sky is the limit the more you have the better off you will be in most cases.